Tell each child individually

You will be dealing with a range of reactions, from your toddler to your teenager, and need time to address each child individually. Schedule a time with each of your children to tell them about the move. When you talk to your children:

• Be very clear as to where, when, and why you are moving
• Let them react as they choose, even if they react negatively
• Ask them to write down any concerns, thoughts, or questions
• Remind them you are willing to discuss the move individually or as a family

Schedule a family meeting

Once you've told everyone, schedule a family meeting to discuss the news.  Ask everyone to bring down a written sheet of paper with their thoughts, concerns, and questions. When you start:

1. Set a few ground rules: No interruptions, no mumbled comments, and no making fun.
2. Give everyone a turn: Go in a circle and let everyone read their list of concerns.
3. Share the floor: Don't let one person own the discussion. Anyone should be able to chime in, even the little ones.
4. Stay positive: Don't dismiss your kids' worries, but try to keep the move in a positive light.
5. Delegate tasks: Let your children know exactly how you expect them to help.

Stay available

As a parent, you should guide your children through these changes, so make it clear they are your first priority. Moving can be a great experience. If you stay positive, happy, and helpful, your kids will follow suit.